Commitment is a very important piece of a relationship, and it haas to come from both sides. Scott Stanley is a researcher that has spent most of his career examining how couples handle their relationships. Most recently he haas been talking and writing about “Asymmetrical commitments'” or relationships where one person is more “all in” than the other. Ho has a great video on You Tube using two children on a seesaw (or teeter-totter, if you prefer) as an example of the phenomenon of an asymmetrical relationship. Here’s the Link: see what you think.
Month: March 2018
How do you come down on March for Our Lives?
There are marches all over the country today sparked by the high school students at the school in Florida where 17 students were killed by a mass shooter. Signs like “Congress will be stoped by ballots, not bullets” and “Our lives matter more than your guns” were carried by people marching in cities from coast to coast.
How do you and your SO come down on this issue? Were you out marching? Was one of you? Do you own guns or dislike the idea of them?
Take the time to explore this movement, and your approaches to it. Many people shy away from conversations about topics of potential differences, but if you hope that your relationship is going to go forward, you need to be able to have the conversation, even if it is to find out that you agree to disagree.
How Long Has This Been Going On?
You are in a relationship. Whether you met through Hello Cupid or bumped into each other in the coffee shop, the two of you hit it off. After some great conversations, maybe a hike or a party or two, you decided that here was somebody you really enjoyed spending time with. You decided you were a couple – you were dating. Maybe you moved to the same city, or to the same apartment.
And how long ago was that?
Has it occurred to you that it might be time to find out where your relationship is going? If not, then you don’t need Facing Ahead. But if you are curious about whether the two of you are on the same page, and you want to explore whether you have the same goals for your relationship, enough common values and vision, then we would invite you to step onto the moving sidewalk that we call Facing Ahead.